Here's kind of a random relationshipy thing I wrote recently that I thought I'd share with whoever was interested. I had a lot of friends who got married one year, so I spent some time thinking about this kind of stuff.

	Listen to your friends. They may have a clearer view, their own thoughts, or be able to tell you what they sense you're really feeling or the direction you're leaning in.
	Don't try to fit a square piece into a place of a circle. Even if you think it should be right or really want it to be, you can't force it to be that way.
	Listen to your doubts. Even if they are only subtle, they are there for a reason.
	Beware of the comfort zone. Just cause it's familiar and comfortable doesn't mean it's right.
	Change the situation sooner than later. Waiting too long doesn't often change the core issues. It will likely prolong your unhappiness, not let you get on with your life, and drive you and the other person crazy.
	Don't chase them too hard or too long. If you need to, even if you get them in the end, they most likely aren't for you anyway and you'll lose a lot of feeling of self-worth in the process.
	It's not a competition. It's not OK if they make you feel like you're flawed or in any way not good enough. The right person will contribute to you feeling good about yourself.
	When you ask someone who is so certain about their relationship how that came to be, they always say they just know. If you don't know (especially for a prolonged period of time), it most likely may not be right.
	Just because you like lots of things about them and even know you love them doesn't make them right for you to be with.
	Do what's best for you. Even though you care deeply about people you love, you have to do what's best for you. In the long run, this is what is best for them too. If you aren't sure about them, you are not the right thing for them either.
	And finally, as the .5: When in doubt, drink more vodka. (That one was from a friend to lighten it up a bit. ;-))

Last updated August 28, 2002